thanks for everyone's concern, it's really appreciated.
it turns out honda's estimate was lower than they thought it was going to be, they're estimating $6,600 in parts and about $2,500 in labor, but that's not including engine repair. there's a clicking sound in the head when the rev the motor up and let off the throttle, and oil was spurting out near the VTEC solenoid because the the theives tried to take it off. so it looks like it might be a toss up between totalling the car and recovering it. ive already got my eyes on an EG and a few other cars if it comes down to that. it sucks to think about driving a 100hp beast after driving an Si for a year, but oh well.